Start where you are
I remember when I was in Campus and used to discuss with my friends about life after graduation. We would talk about things like, would we really get jobs? There was a lot of negative information about the job market which made us a little worried. How long would it take to get a job? The most worrying fact we were facing, though, was that the good jobs required experience, and who was willing to give us a chance to get that experience? It seemed to us as though the employment world was skewed against fresh graduates – if we need experience to get employed, who was going to give it to us?
The answer to that pertinent question presented itself to me at some point during my final year. I got an opportunity to volunteer at the United Nations Environmental Program offices as a Sociology student. It was a short stint, barely a month, but it gave me a chance to get a little bit of practice working in a busy office. So I got some experience.
What did this teach me? There is always opportunity to get experience all around us. Life offers little chances here and there for us to get into our area of interest if only we would look. Napoleon Bonaparte said, “Ability is nothing without opportunity,” therefore let the opportunity to mentor become the opportunity to sharpen your abilities in this area. Look around you, who needs your help and in what area? It may be a younger person or even someone older than you but has less experience in that field. Find out what you can do to help.
Mentoring is essentially a relationship; and there is no-one who has a diploma or degree in relationships. We all learn as we go along. Sometimes this is a better way of learning how to do things – learning on the job. It gives you better handle on the practical aspects and the real issues involved.
Start where you are. Start with what you know now, the rest will be uncovered as you proceed. Later on, you will be able to say that you have some experience in mentoring others.
Freely you have received, freely give
I learnt about mentoring well past college – actually when working. However, there were people in my life’s journey that I could point to as having influenced my life significantly so that I can say I have learnt a lot from them. They may or may not have been aware of their influence, and some of them were not close to me but played their role from afar. They gave me their time, wisdom, resources and help in different ways, to make me what I am today. There was no formal arrangement to do that; they were just great givers who wanted to see me do well in life. If they were to tell their own stories they would probably also give the same testimony, that there were people who helped them along in life.
What am I saying? If you have gotten to the place where you are with the help of others, you can extend the same grace to another who needs your help. Freely you have received, freely give. Don’t worry about whether anyone notices or not, or whether you will be rewarded. In this life, true givers are the ones who always remain on top.
Always be on the lookout for an opportunity to mentor someone. It may be for a short while like helping a student get through their last year of college successfully, or it could last longer like helping a young entrepreneur start and establish their business.
So becoming a mentor does not always require experience. You just need to be willing and available.